women psychology

how we define happiness nowadays is actually in two sections. we divide happiness into two. okay, the two sections that we divide happiness into is - number one, "hedonia", okay? hedonia. now, can u guys think perhaps could you define for me briefly what hedonia might be? hedonia is a form of happiness, is about abrief fleeting achievement of some description. it is characterized by an event, okay.an achievement or an event, an acquisition.

okay. picking up that hot girl alright. havingchocolate cake, getting a car, getting a moterbike, talking to a girl, having a girl give youa glance. these are all forms of hedonia, these specific events, okay. what are thesespecific events, do they peak your feeling of well being. gives you this peak, this jump,this skip up, in perceived happiness.

what else gives you hedonia guys, is drugs.yes? cocaine ã­s great! yeah? have a line of it - "bam!" i'm switched on, i'm feelinghappy. eudaemonia okay is the state of happinessthat we achieve when we're in the state of pursuit for something that we want, whatwe would call eudaemonic goal. and don't be fooled by the fact that it ends in the word "demonic".okay, in an eudaemonic goal okay we will move in a pursuit of that. a surfer is not afterone specific event, okay, usually not. the surfer can love the surfing to enjoy the process of getting better at surfing. the runner ã­s the same. i've got myself up there from oneof my previous seminars - for me this is eudaemonic process. the two very different reasons for takingaction in life.

hedonic goals and eudaemonic goals are very different. let me, let me..sort of list it up like this guys. measure with a graph, cause i'm a geek so i like graphs..okay.this is time and this is happiness, okay. when you are in the pursuit of hedonic goals, when you are achieving hedonic goals, living a life in this fashion, this is what occurs. this is what we go through. we peak when we achieve our hedonic goal and then we crash and we say "oh life's horrible!" and we peak and we go "oh yes, life ã­s awesome!" then we crash and go "oh my god life ã­s horrible!" and then we peak and "oh my god.." yeah, you get the process right? okay, this is the process of hedonic pleasure. and let's face it, the majority of guys here are in this process. we're locked into this cycle. one wayor another, okay, a lot of the things that

you guys are going to do tomorrow are about achieving some sort of hedonic pleasure for yourselves. it might be the food you eat, it might be playing a gameon a work computer rather than actually working, okay - it ã­s an achievement of some hedonicshort term pleasure okay that gives you peaks and it also gives you troughs. okay when you are working towards an eudaemonic pleasure, what you get is this process. okay? because you don't crash. you guys, let me ask you, who has been... who here has..knows that feeling when you have just been in a middle of exercise regime that you're doing for a couple of weeks now, say 3-4 weeks and you're starting to getin the routine. who knows that feeling? some of you guys. who knows that feeling of leaving a job you don't want, to persue something you want more of in life?

who found that just lasted a day, that pleasure? it just lasted a day for you?fair enough. most of you guys shouldfind that it carries around with you. you carry it around. you carry it around withyou when you go out to a club, you carry it around with you when you're at parties..okayyou walk into that party and you feel like a million bucks because you know whatyou're in the middle of pursuing what you want in life. you know that kick in energythat you get when you're really pursuing something you want? you guys all know thatfeeling? yeah? and that stays with you, that doesn't rely on you actually achievingsomething, the pursuit of what you want, it follows you around and sticks with you, okay.it impacts the way you interact with the people

around you, okay. these are endaemonic goals.these are endaemonic forms of happiness. can you guys tell me who are the happiestpeople that we have recorded? meditated buddhist monks guys. can anyone tell me how these people live their lives? does anyone know about the life ofa monk? and you don't have to be an expert. one of the aspects of a monk's life is to forego individualism and also hedonistic pleasure. you wont find a monkwith an ipad playing games although i have seen a monk with with an iphone. you wont see monks with boom boxes or cool cars or any of this stuff because their lifestyle, a monk's lifestyle is to cut this out of their life as much as possible. the monks lifestyle is to be in pursuit of what? what are the monks in pursuit of? enlightenment.exactly.

and will any monk ever say i'm totally enlightened - i've i got it! will you ever hear a monk say that? why not? because the idea isn't actually be enlightened, the idea is to be consistentin pursuit. the whole idea is to be concept of pursuit, not actually attain. okay andthese people are measurably the happiest. they're measurably the happiest.it ã­s an interesting aspect this hedonia versus endaemonia thing, the people that we knowwho pursue endaemonic pleasures are the happiest. if you guys can be in a habit of moving towardsan endaemonic goal at all times,

women psychology,rather than the hedonistic goals, you're gonna start making betterchoices, you're gonna start making choices, decisions in your life , that are going to makeyou happier. we all want to be better with women, for lots of different reasons, but some of the needs and some of thean endaemonic desires that we've got behind

that could be sated in other ways as well. we are all looking for more than just being better with women.

women and sexuality

10 fascinating facts about the celts 10. they probably didn’t originate in ireland



As information if your partner wants to prolong the duration of intercourse you can use hajar jahanam will stick here we do not discuss the length of the drug but women and sexuality. your mind has just been blown, right? over the years we’ve come to associate theterm “celtic” with ireland (thanks in large part, in recent history, to the nbateam the boston celtics, whose logo is a leprechaun covered in shamrocks).

but historians have concluded that the celtsalmost certainly didn’t originate in ireland – or scotland, or wales, or even england,for that matter. instead, their roots have been traced backto central europe, with austria being the likeliest point of origin. emerging from the late bronze age along thedanube river, celtic tribes are believed to have initially lived throughout continentaleurope. eventually, these tribes expanded north anddid settle in the united kingdom. but when you think of ancient tribal warriorsfrom ireland, the odds are pretty strong you’re not thinking of the celts; you’re thinkingof the gaels.

of course, even that is a little more complicatedthan it sounds, so we’ll come back to that later. 9. the romans had nothing on their roads while romans often get credited for beingthe road-builders of europe, there’s substantial evidence to suggest that the celts beat themto the punch. not that the history books would ever tellyou that, because as we all know, history is written by the winners. and for the bulk of early recorded history,the winners resided in the roman empire.

when you’re the biggest, baddest dude onthe block, you can take what you want, including credit for things others have done. and according to some, that includes the buildingof roads. archaeological evidence now suggests thatit was the celts, and not the romans, who were the first to build roads. remnants of these roads would seem to indicatethat they were constructed before the roman conquest reached the british isles. these roads were constructed largely out ofwood, which was carbon dated to the iron age – an indication that they predated the romanempire expanding that far north.

and speaking of the iron age… 8. they were among the first to utilize ironweaponry one aspect of celtic culture you’re no doubtaware of is their reputation as fierce warriors. they were also technologically ahead of theirtime, which gave them a pretty giant leg up on their enemies. after all, this is the group that inventedthe exact chainmail that was later adopted by the famous roman legions. that obviously flies in the face of old rumorsthat the celts fought naked, since we can’t

imagine chainmail would feel particularlygreat clanging against your junk. but it wasn’t just superior armor that gavethe celts an advantage in battle; it was superior arms, as well. the celts are believed to be among the veryfirst to forge iron into swords, replacing the flimsier bronze swords most had been usingup until sometime around 800 bc. they also began to utilize smaller, lighterswords and daggers, also made of iron, around 600 bc. these were far less cumbersome than broadswords,enabling the celts to be more agile and quicker to strike on the battlefield.

7. the celts were hugely wealthy while history often paints the celts in broadstrokes as being somewhat barbaric, savage warriors, that’s not exactly the case. sure, they did participate in some acts ofbarbarism, and many practiced ritual human sacrifice. and yes, we’re going to get to that in justa bit. but that aside, they were also massively wealthy,thanks in large part to being highly active in trade of the time.

being among the first to utilize iron certainlyhelped fill their coffers as well. gold was so abundant among the celtic regionsthat they used it in their armor, weaponry, and art. silver and bronze were also widely used, andthey became renowned for their finely crafted and ornate jewelry. their artistry was among the best in the worldat the time, and their scientific and technological prowess was a big part of that. through their art, their wine, their vastquantities of gold, and their advancements in technology, the celts were able to linetheir pockets very nicely indeed.

6. they had slavery… kind of now, to be sure, the celts did indeed practicea form of slavery. but – and not that this is justificationor makes it even remotely better, in principle – it was much closer to the serfdom of medievaltimes than the actual slavery we’re most familiar with from history books. and as usual when you’re talking about tribesprone to war, many of these slaves were prisoners of war who were held within the tribe’sregion and forbidden traditional rights and

privileges of anyone actually from that tribe. when a prisoner was taken, or a criminal offeredto the victim’s family as restitution for his crime, he was bound to that person orfamily for life. he had no right of inheritance, was forbiddenfrom taking up arms, and was more or less simply the lowest rung of the sociologicalladder. most of what we know of slavery in celticsociety comes from remnants of law texts from places like ireland and wales, so obviouslythere are pretty massive gaps in the information we’ve got. that said, while you were afforded virtuallyno rights as a slave held by one of the celts,

the consensus seems to be that treatment wasstill more humane than slaves of many other cultures throughout history. 5. they had progressive views on gender and sexuality while we can’t exactly call the celts progressivein terms of their views on slavery, we absolutely can when it comes to women and sexuality. now, don’t get us wrong: even in a somewhatprogressive tribal society, it was still patriarchal. but that doesn’t mean women didn’t havea say, or couldn’t rise to power, or even become warriors or dignitaries.

in fact, quite the opposite is true. particularly before the roman conquest, celticwomen could lead tribes, as was the case with boudica. obviously, boudica represents far from thenorm, but was one of a few celtic women to rise to power and lead her people before herdeath circa 60 ad. she was the queen of her tribe, and led herwarriors into battle against the roman empire. and speaking of gender and sexuality, oneelement of celtic culture that’s become widely believed is that not only could womenhold positions of power, but that celtic men often preferred the, ahem, “company” ofother men.

it was commonplace for men to seek out sexualcompanionship with their fellow male warriors, and likewise, women practiced free love inceltic culture, according to historical records from their contemporaries. 4. they weren’t savages but they did hunt heads as we’ve mentioned a few times at this point,the celts were far from the barbarians history has often painted them to be. they were an advanced society, took greatcare and pride in their appearance, and were wise enough to know it was an affront to wineconnoisseurs everywhere to water the stuff

down like those simpletons in the greek androman empires. but that doesn’t mean they didn’t participatein at least a few practices that might qualify as barbaric and savage. chief among those practices – other thanritualistic human sacrifice, which we’ll get back to shortly – was headhunting. as with ritualistic sacrifices, celtic headhuntingwas driven by religion, for the most part. you see, the celts believed that the headcontained a warrior’s soul, so by taking his head you are, in fact, capturing thatsoul. at least, that’s one popular theory as towhy they hunted heads, though the exact reason

is not known, and likely varied from tribeto tribe, and warrior to warrior, particularly since the practice continued even after mostceltic tribes had converted to christianity. 3. the number three had a huge significance we’ll be delving into the religion of thecelts in just a moment, but a substantial part of their belief system was the conceptof “triplicity.” while that may sound like a knockoff travelwebsite, in reality it has to do with the number three. specifically, things coming in the form of‘triplets’, so to speak.

that means three realms (sky, land, and sea),and three types of gods (personal, tribal, and spirits). now, the celts didn’t just have three gods,mind you. they had many. when we talk about the celts worshipping threetypes of gods, we’re talking about the kinds that guide you when you’re alone, the kindsthat are with you when you’re in groups, and those that protect your home. to put it simply, triplicity refers to threethings that come together to form a whole. it’s an important part of cosmology andastrology, which were integral parts druid

paganism. which leads us to… 2. for most of their existence they were polytheistic eventually, some celtic tribes adopted christianityas their preferred spiritual path. but for the bulk of celtic existence, theypracticed polytheism; the worship of many gods. it’s not unusual that they’d have worshippednumerous gods, considering the same was true of their contemporaries, like the greeks andromans.

and the chief purveyors of celtic polytheism,or celtic paganism, were the druids. believe it or not, much of what we know ofthe druids and druidism comes from, of all people, julius caesar. obviously, that’s part of what renders ourknowledge of the druids information that should probably be taken with at least a small grainof salt, considering caesar and his empire were frequently at war with the celts. still, caesar relayed that the druids wereteachers and priests, and also rendered judgement and penalties resulting from crimes and squabbleswithin their tribes. as alluded to in the previous entry, the starsplayed a significant role in the celtic religion

and druidism. they also practiced ritual sacrifice to appeasetheir gods (with the burning of wicker men – sacrificial victim or victims inside – whichwill send a shiver down nic cage’s spine should he read this), and believed in reincarnation. 1. the celts weren’t really, well, “celts” confused? don’t be. it’s a lot simpler than the header probablymakes it sound.

you see, the group you think of as the “celts”isn’t really the celts, at least not in the sense that the romans were the romans,or the greeks were the greeks. that’s because the celts weren’t justone group; they consisted of many, including the aforementioned gaels, the britons, thegauls, and the galatians, among others. see, “celtic” really referred to language,and the somewhat similar dialects these various tribes used. that said, grouping all of those tribes togetherunder one umbrella – which, again, was done by contemporaries like the greeks and romans,since the celts themselves didn’t keep written records – is probably misleading.

some historians suggest that the languageswere different enough, and the groups so spread out (as far east as turkey, all the way westto the atlantic ocean) that it’s highly unlikely most of the tribes were remotelyunited.

women and sexuality,in fact, it’s believed part of the reasonthey were ultimately defeated by the romans was because of their lack of unification. in essence, calling a gaul “celtic” wouldbe akin to calling a german “european.” technically correct, but highly generalized.

toyay

noted that no illegal narcotics were found in that home. >>> tennis great, serena williams, is speaking out against another legendary star

of the sport who is accused of making a shocking remark able her unborn child. it happened at an international

tennis federation press conference on friday. the romanian team captain and former number one tennis star, was heard making racist comments about serena williams unborn baby. allegedly saying, let's see what color it has.

chocolate with milk? the 23-time grand slam champion, who announced her pregnancy with this selfie, slammed him on instagram. it disappoints me to know that we live in a society where people like ilie nastase can make racist comments towards

myself and unborn child. he reportedly has a reputation for bad behavior. the its condemned the remarks and said it is launching an investigation. fellow tennis stars like james blake, showing their support for serena.

ilie is the most disgraceful figure in our sport. williams not letting it dampen her pregnancy cheer. on monday, she posted this heartfelt ode to her future bundle of boy. my dearest baby you give me the strength i didn't know i had.

you taught me the true meaning of serenity and peace. i can't wait to meet you. >> and the i.t.s. has suspended na naste. we did reach out for comment but

toyay,did not hear back. this seems to be a pattern.

>> his past behavior on the court, which is why he got the

sexual passion

biologically, love is a powerful neurological condition like hunger or thirst, only more permanent we talk about love being blind or unconditional, in the sense that we have no control over it but then, that is not so surprising since love is basically chemistry. while lust is a temporary passionate sexual desire involving the increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and oestrogen in true love, or attachment and bonding, the brain can release a whole set of chemicals

pheromones, dopamine, norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin and vasopressin however, from an evolutionary perspective, love can be viewed as a survival tool – a mechanism we have evolved to promote long-term relationships mutual defence and parental support of children and to promote feelings of safety and security. unlike us, the ancients did not lump all the various emotions that we label "love" under the one word. they had several variations, including:

philia which they saw as a deep but usually non-sexual intimacy between close friends and family members or as a deep bond forged by soldiers as they fought alongside each other in battle. ludus describes a more playful affection found in fooling around or flirting pragma is the mature love that develops over a long period of time between long-term couples and involves actively practising goodwill, commitment, compromise and understanding. agape is a more generalised love, it's not about exclusivity but about love for all of humanity philautia is self love, which isn't as selfish as it sounds. as aristotle discovered and as any psychotherapist will tell you, in order to care for others you need to be able to care about yourself last, and probably least even though it causes the most trouble, eros is about sexual passion and desire. unless it morphs into philia and/or pragma, eros will burn itself out love is all of the above. but is it possibly unrealistic to expect to experience all six types with only one person. this is why family and community are important. the answer remains elusive in part because love is not one thing. love for parents, partners, children, country, neighbour, god and so on all have different qualities each has its variants – blind, one-sided, tragic, steadfast, fickle, reciprocated, misguided, unconditional. at its best, however, all love is a kind a passionate commitment that we nurture and develop

even though it usually arrives in our lives unbidden. that's why it is more than just a powerful feeling. without the commitment, it is mere infatuation. without the passion, it is mere dedication. without nurturing, even the best can wither and die. what love is depends on where you are in relation to it. secure in it, it can feel as mundane and necessary as air – you exist within it, almost unnoticing. deprived of it, it can feel like an obsession all consuming, a physical pain. love is the driver for all great stories: not just romantic love, but the love of parent for child, for family, for country it is the point before consummation of it that fascinates: what separates you from love, the obstacles that stand in its way. it is usually at those points that love is everything.

sexual passion,love is more easily experienced than defined. as a theological virtue, by which we love god above all things and our neighbours as ourselves for his sake' it seems remote until we encounter it enfleshed, so to say, in the life of another – in acts of kindness, generosity and self-sacrifice love's the one thing that can never hurt anyone, although it may cost dearly. the paradox of love is that it is supremely free yet attaches us with bonds stronger than death it cannot be bought or sold; there is nothing it cannot face; love is life's greatest blessing.

sacology

there's true belief out at the municipal level that federal government is willing to de-silo itself by bringing all those departments together to really focus on this common issue. it’s been a true indicator to us that playing with the federal government is something we want to be part of. on the issue of needs-based funding, though, and that criteria--even the city of san jose would say that money needs to be funneled to those communities in most need, no doubt. the

problem being is that communities that have true collaborative partnerships--sustainable initiatives 19-20 years long, success rates such as six gang-related homicides in a city of a million--need to use those type of criteria--that they have strategic work plans, that they have the true partnerships in place--and weigh that against just needs-based: high violence, high

death tolls being the reason you fund a city. if they continue to fund in that model, the city of san jose unfortunately will be victimized for its success, so to speak. and as i’ve told you, this year, even though i talk about six homicides last year, we’re at 14--six months into this year. tonight our safety net will be reduced due to budgetary limitations, and we really believe that it’s time that the federal government take a look at even results-based cities that may not have, statistically, the need of some of our larger municipalities and still see that they can be a beacon of hope--that they have many elements of what they want those other cities in need to migrate to, and thus sustain it, support it, and make sure that cities that have had success don’t backtrack and end up in a different type of scenario.

in the city of san jose we’ve had, i’d say, the luxury of being so successful that maybe evidence- and research-based methodologies haven’t been as important because a city of a million people with six gang-related homicides would give you the perception that you’ve got something that works. and so there hasn’t been a scenario where things are so out of control that our policy makers thus move into the next mindset of questioning, “are you doing the right things? are you using research?” but i will allude to this: that with diminishing resources, as you mentioned, my city council will be making a very difficult decision today to close $115 million deficit for this particular year. in doing so, they’re going to leave us with a lot less

sacology,resources, which i think begs the question of “are you using the right methodology? are you

using the right programs and practices?” and i think scarcity is going to lean us, or lead us towards the utilization and the translation of research practice and research knowledge into where the boots hit the road.

girls desires

hi there i'm veronica and i'll be giving you tips on how to make her want you. the best way to impress a girl is not by impressing her, be yourself and let things happen automatically be confident, if she feels that you are confident in yourself, then she will be far more attracted then she will be far more attractivethen will otherwise be possible

when you have much confidence it will shinethrough and girls actually notice it. this is exactly how you make yourself more desirable women like a man with a plan. when you call her up, don't make her work

by making any decisions let her knowexactly what time you're picking her up. where you are taking her and you know what she will wear let her you know sit back and relaxwhile you take care of the details so be original and when you gettogether do fun things she doesn't get to do with anyone else, you know being chivalrous is a powerful wayto let a women know that you are the man and she's in good hands. so open the door forher and pull out her chair, you know .girls are moreinterested in the way that you make them feel

and you know they want emotional stimulation so being a good talker is the foundation of impressing almost any girl. should you satisfyhow to make her want you their psychological expectations youcan successfully go beyond those men who are more well-known more good looking and richer than you. they want to have fun use your sense of humor, romance surprises, creative thinking intelligence, you know, care

and so are you know, hear the girls troublesand headaches but don't provide answers right away they're notlooking for solutions just to be hard and cared for, so, when youfully understand what a girls desires and wants one then elaborating will make her feel thatyou are on the same page as her and you will end up beingirresistible to her find some things that you-are passionate about.whether it's hobbies sports or business pursuits, or, you know making it your main priority instead of hers

the more work she puts into therelationship the more she'll value it. people are much more impressed by their accomplishments of others when they discover them, rather than being told about them.

girls desires,so hold back don't tell her youwhole life story at the beginning keep things cool don't rush into anything don't sweat the small stuff . for more information on "how to make her want you" how to make her want you .just click the link in the description below

girl desire

signs girl loves you - 10 signs that a womanreally loves you very much. 1. she always wants to be with you. you can have a thousand things to do, butshe will always be eager to see you. if she has a place to go that can not be canceledand she wants to be with you there's always a sentence she says, "but if you want,you can accompany me" a hopeful tone. if she

has to study for an exam or have to do a job,there is a phrase: "come and help me," even if you don't know anythingabout the subject. 2. they love to touch you. when her interest is genuine and real, shegrabs your hand, hugs you, pushes you, grabs

you hair, grabs your cheeks, etc. she feelsthe need to touch you, no matter the excuse. 3. when you go home she always ask if youarrived fine. no matter the transportation, either by bus,taxi, car, bicycle or walking, when you go home, she wants to make sure you got homefine. 4. she smiles when she sees you. a look is worth a thousand words, and if thelook is accompanied by a cute smile, better. 5. she calls or sends messages to know howyou are. when she calls you or sends you a messagejust to ask you for something is preoccupying,

but when she calls you just to know how youare, is a great sign. 6. she becomes jealous and serious when youtalk to other women. when you talk or make any comments about yourex, or any of her girlfriends she gets very jealous of them and look at you seriouslyand steadily. this is a clear sign that she feels uncomfortable because she interestedin you. 7. she calls your phone and doesn't mind spendinga lot of minutes. for many people spending credits or minutesin the cell is very valuable, if she doesn't mind, it's because she really loves you. 8. she gives you things made by her.

here it does not matter the material valueof the gift, but the time it took for them to make it and the dedication that entails. 9. they invite you to do things all the time. when she's so interested in you, she doesn'twait for you to make her the invitations, but the idea to make plans comes from herand sometimes she even wants to pay the costs of going out. 10. she presents you by your name and doesn'tsay you're her friend.

girl desire,when you're with her and someone calls herin the phone she does not say, "i'm with a friend" but she calls you by your name.

for more signs girl loves you click the linkin the description below: to see more tips and please share with others.

female sexuality

a typical scene of japanese salary men relaxingafter work served by women. except, at this bar, the women are the customersturning the tables. now, take a closer look because the 'malehosts' are also women, masquerading as men. at the new marilyn bar, a woman can unburdenherself on a sympathetic 'male' knowing she'll be perfectly understood.

confused? this is japanese female sexualityin the 1990s. there is a new boldness about japanese womenthese days. some are calling it a female 'sex boom'. but, just like the new marilyn barback there, it's a social trend full of contradictions and surprises and one that does not necessarilyconform to western notions of 'women's lib'.

her name is ulala aikawa. ulala is a sex counsellor and purveyorof ladies pleasure products recently it's become easier for japanese womento buy these things. although they may feel they want to become sexy, i think it's becausethey've already become more active. this is a slightly erotic 'how to' video iwant to introduce in japanese terms, ulala is a pioneer of femalesexual emancipation. this is a scene of a man and woman havingsex. her 'how to' videos for women are being featuredon television talk shows

this segment was aired midafternoon in housewives peak viewing time this commercialisation, the flourishment ofsexual representation itself stresses the women's pleasure whichencourages women it's perfectly ok for women to pursue their pleasure.so, it's in a sense a by product of male-oriented porn. chizuko ueno is japan's leading feminist scholar. she welcomes the fact that japanese womenare becoming more sexually demanding. even though it may be a limited victory. i would call it liberation from within bed,rather than at work places. and this commercialisation

of sexuality is actually both positive andnegative. so we have to take advantage of any kind of change in this market economy. voiceover in the 'open market' of sex, japanesewomen are now free to enjoy this in tokyo's most fashionable neighbourhood,the j-men's club serves up 'bump and grind' for petite college students and office ladies. the sort who usually giggle behind their handsin male company. last week disneyland this week, well,another kind of fantasy. the all-american strippers average two thousanddollars a week, just in tips. one way to a skimpier trade deficit.

that japan should need to import sex entertainmentof any sort is puzzling, given its own cultural heritage. in folk festivals, like this one near tokyo,the sex organs are worshipped as gods of fertility and paraded through the streets. japan's native shinto religion celebrateshuman sexuality uninhibited by shame or guilt. the same attitude inspired the great wood-blockartists of the past. their 'shunga', or spring pictures, exploredsexual pleasure in all its variety. the emphasis was on men and women in mutualenjoyment sex as a technique of love.

in the modern era, with increasing state controland influence from the west, things have changed. an obscenity law requires publishers and film-makersto obliterate the genitalia. but it's bureaucratic censorship ... thatleads to absurd double-standards. in the office of a men's porn magazine, theeditor's red felt pen draws the line at pubic hair yet doesn't blush at graphic images offemale humiliation. i can't sell these magazines without touchingthem up. so this something i have to do. is it a kind of art to put in as little aspossible? that's right. the readers prefer it that way.

it's even easier to make a nonsense of thelaw in the fantasy world of comics, or 'manga', as they're calledhere. these are erotic 'manga' - available at anynewsstand with annual sales in the hundreds of millions. the typical ingredients of theirstories are rape, paedophilia and sado-masochism. so it may surprise you to learn that eroticmanga are now also being produced and read by women. milk morizono is one of the first artiststo create erotic manga for women. her comics, 'feel'', and 'young feel', sellover a quarter of a million copies a month.

the heroine's lover has been captured by afamous married couple who like sadomasochism. to get to him shehas to join their bondage party for group sex. that's the story so far. all the usual ingredients of manga for men. except, in these stories, the women use theirsexuality to get their own way. in erotic manga for men, the women are men'sdolls or slaves. that's the way men would like to manipulate women. in my case it'sdifferent, the opposite. in this story, the woman is not obedient to the man. she's independentand pursues her own career in the fashion industry.

once a target of feminist criticism, women'smanga are being seen in a new light in men's comics women are always victims.but in female comics, women, well, in the guise of victim, she takes control of theoffenders. a similar kind of control game is going onhere. the discos call it 'body consciousness' ... femalepatrons who pay to become the stage show. men are spectators, not partners, in thisgame ... kept at a distance, while the dancers urge each other on. it's a private-public show of independence by women whose lives away from the disco

are a very different story. they are actually just ordinary girls workingas ols. office ladies? yes, office ladies. they usually have a quiteboring frustrated job. so, as a compensation they want to attract male attention, as aninaccessible object. the disco display would have been unthinkablea few years ago - but, then, much has changed for japanesewomen. they now make up forty per cent of the workforce. more women than men are taking degrees.

and many are seeking a more equal partnershipin marriage. seijitsu. you want your husband to be faithful.in this class if your husband had an affair would you divorce him? american academic, anne sokalsky, is surveyinghow japanese women feel about their lives. would you divorce him? absolutely ok. why? because it's not fair to me. also to him.so absolutely. personally i don't respect me. because untilnow men would

call themselves 'great', 'great'. it is, it'swhat they say. but actually they were propped up by the women all the time. these college students are typical of a moreoutspoken japanese womanhood. i think it's a reflection of women becomingmore vocal. the increasing women's consciousness here. the fact that their real power - it'sno longer being as secretive as it used to be. women are starting to stand up for theirrights. they're starting to claim more through the law. after the titles a one minute bath scene, centre position. unlike foreigners japanese women don't show all ofthemselves, and don't

try to be sexy. japanese are more reserved.but, i don't think it has to be that way. a most public face, and someone who givesa final twist to this tale, is ai iijima. her office is a television studio ... hostinga show which tops the late-night ratings. everybody, are you feeling run down? to relievestress, a bath is the best thing ... it's not a cable channel - but a free-to-airbroadcast. the 'wueen of the g-string' is a respectablestar in japan ... she even gets fan mail from primary school children. it's a bath-house special tonight. and now...

yet this is someone who began her careen asa porn video actress. in this season, the best combination is apretty girl and a draught beer in a bath ... the image of adult videos is not good. sowe try to erase it and she herself has stopped. with a good image she'snow able to appear in quiz shows. through this program, i'd like to create more starslike her. is this pitch by the producer merely an excusefor crass commercial exploitation? or does the show represent a mutually advantageouspact between commercial enterprise and japanese women?

the fact is iijima-san has more female admirersthan men women who see her as a role-model. although the star herself qualifies that admiration. i'm glad to hear that. but only the outside,not the inside. i didn't go to school so much, i didn't study and i've had a hard time, whichi regret. i don't want them to follow me in that way. here is a new motto for a restless society:'girls, enjoy your bodies, but study hard.' in this sexual awakening, old distinctionshave become blurred.

female sexuality,anyone is now a potential object of desireanyone a potential consumer of the desirable. whether pleasing men or just pleasingthemselves.

changing the plot or being caught inone. that is the paradox, the living dilemma, ofjapanese women in the 1990s.